I started blogging four years ago, when I was still learning how to navigate life with three boys, learning about their challenges, finding them help, and processing it all through writing. Over the span of those years, the journey has given us a list of acronyms a mile long, many challenges, and most recently big changes in our lives as a family. All of that led to me putting writing aside, and focusing on managing our daily life. But I’ve realized that writing is essential to how I process things; so it is time to turn the page, close the last chapter of our life, and my blogging, and begin a new one….so here it is, Hartley’s New Life.
What will you find here? I’m not entirely sure yet…probably lots of things.
I believe sharing my story and experiences is a way to support families who are struggling down the same special-needs parenting journey I am, because I have relied on other blogs and friendships in the same way. So, here you will hopefully find connection, understanding and support. But I also hope you find perspective, humor, and mostly the knowledge that you are NOT ALONE.
I’m sure I will post about difficult times, successes for me and my boys, as well as trivial things like photos, recipes and kid quotes. I might post a lot, I might not, I guess like everything in life, following my blog will be a bit of a gamble. But, no risk, no reward.
My ‘New Life’ is much different than my ‘Past Life’ in so many ways. My boys are older now, in 1st, 3rd, and 5th grade, have new challenges, new diagnoses, and have lived through my divorce nearly two years ago. We have moved to a new house – out of the cul-de-sac suburbs and into the country, where we have 4.5 acres, a lake, riverfront, a tree house, and more space for us both physically and mentally. The move has meant new schools in a new district, new teachers and new programs as well. All of these changes have meant difficult transitions, but in the end, they have most importantly meant a new found happiness for all of us.
And now it also means a new blog, so welcome to the next chapter, Hartley’s New Life.
*It used to be that parents of children with SPD/Autism came to my blog to laugh, learn and share. In the last two years people have come for different, more selfish and shady reasons. So, if you are here reading about my New Life please be respectful of the intent and spirit in which this is written. If you heard my name at my child’s school, think I’m dating someone you know, or otherwise want to gather information about me for your own personal reasons, know this is not a place for you to spy on me or put my life on trial. Should you realize at this point that you are here doing something like that, please leave now, and give me the space and grace to write for those who need the support without fear of my words being twisted or my children being judged maliciously. Thank you.